1. Surrendering Their Power
Mentally strong people are well
aware of their prowess to manage any situation by the way they respond.
They know their strength is in knowing their weaknesses. They refuse to
give away their power to fully control their actions and emotions.
2. Resisting Change
Change
is a part of life and mentally strong people are well aware of this
fact. So, instead of resisting change, they go with the flow and take
this change as a challenge, a challenge to better them. They make their
own opportunities and know how to make the best of every passing moment.
3. Being Hasty in Results
"Haste
Makes Waste", a well-known proverb throughout the galaxy, is well
acknowledged by mentally strong people. They implement it in their
lives. They know, be it a workout plan or starting a business, nothing
succeeds over a night. They recognize the fact that expecting immediate
results is a task for lunatics. They plan out their work for the long
run and celebrate each milestone on the way.
4. Feeling Superior Then Others
Mentally
strong people realize the fact that they are not superior to anyone.
This world does not owe them anything. They were born equal and will
remain equal to others, no matter their heritage or bloodline. They know
they`ll have to strive to survive in this world. And they`re prepared
to tackle the difficulties and succeed on their merits at every turn of
life.
5. Being Worried for Uncontrollable Matters
One thing,
mentally strong people have a complete control on, is their attitude
towards problems. You won`t see such people complaining about things
that don`t matter or situations that are beyond their control, such as
bad traffic or whether. Instead they concentrate their time and energy
on projects that`ll affect their life in a positive way.
6. Being Worried of Their Image
Ever
seen people who go out of their way to please others? Or people who do
so just to irritate others? Both are self-centered people who care for
nothing except their fake image on the world and people around them.
Mentally strong people stay out of such practices. They know when to be
kind and affectionate and when to stand up for what`s right.
7. Being Afraid of Time with Themselves
Mentally
strong people enjoy good company of other people and also of
themselves. They treasure their alone time and use it to reflect on
their life choices and plan for a better and brighter future. They know
how to benefit from their alone time by putting their efforts in
something productive.
8. Being Afraid to Try Again
Some
people are too afraid to try again; they just give up after failure.
Such is not the case with mentally strong people. They know success and
failure go hand in hand. Even the most successful people started from
scratch and had to face failures before they got where they are now.
Mentally strong people know that they`ll have to try, try again to
succeed.
9. Being Jealous
Mentally weak people resent other
peoples success. They become jealous and think of ways to turn their
success into failure. While mentally strong people do the opposite.
They, not only, feel genuinely happy and contended for the succeeding,
but also take notes from their success and use them to shape their own
path to success.
10. Being Afraid of Taking Risks
A mentally
strong person knows his strengths and weaknesses. He knows risks are a
must in the path to success. He also knows the extent of risks that he
can take. He thoroughly weighs the negative effects of the risk against
its benefits while fully assessing the potential outcomes, before taking
a step.
11. Living in The Past
Mentally weak people tend to
live in their past. They mourn over the past disappointments and how
the times have changed. They want to live in the "splendor days" of the
past. Mentally strong people, on the other hand, tend to learn from
their past failures instead of indulging in them. They use this
experience learned to improve their present and forge a better path for
their future.
12. Repeating the Same Mistakes
"What is the
definition of insanity? It`s doing the same exact thing again and again
and expecting different results" ~Albert Einstein Mentally strong people
take full responsibility of their past actions. It`s not like they
don`t commit mistakes, they do. It`s about how they respond to their
mistakes, their attitude towards them. They learn from their mistakes
and incorporate this learning experience in their future decisions.
Maryam Nasrullah
“If your heart is beating, if your lungs are breathing, if
you are still alive… then it is not too late to do something kind,
creative, generous, satisfying, and courageous. Today.” ~Alexandra
Franzen
It was one of those days.
You know the ones—when nothing really bad happens, but everything
just seems to go wrong. When lots of little annoying things happen and
the day seems to spiral from there.
This was one of those days.
I had woken up with a headache and decided to hit the snooze button
on my alarm (twice) so I didn’t have to face the day yet, which meant I
had to rush to get ready and make it to my first university class of the
day.
I ended up getting to class late (and I’m one of those people who hate being late), and as the day went on, things got worse.
In another class, I found out that we had a test that I had completely forgotten about and hadn’t prepared for.
Then later on, I was meant to be meeting up with a group of people to work on a group assignment, and no one came.
So by the afternoon I was pretty over it.
“Could this day get any worse?” I dramatically thought.
And then it did.
When I was walking home I got caught in a rainstorm and discovered
that there must have been a hole somewhere in my shoes. I seriously felt
like I was in a movie where someone was having a comically bad day.
As I stepped in the door I decided that the day was ruined
and there was no point in trying to do anything now, but I stopped
myself in my tracks with one of my favorite mantras by Alexandra
Franzen:
“Today is not over yet.”
This mantra shifted my thinking immediately and I realized there was still time to make the day count.
After all, it was only late afternoon.
So, I had a shower and put on dry clothes. I waited for my boyfriend
to get home and we headed into town, where we bought mint raw chocolate
and kombucha. We walked around the town and through one of my favorite
parks.
We ended up getting burgers for dinner, having a really meaningful conversation, and then going to see a movie.
When I arrived home that night I realized how profound those five
words had been and how they had helped me completely turn my day (and
attitude) around.
Earlier in the day I could have chosen to give up on the day, but
instead, I made a choice to find a way to make the rest of the day
count—to do something that was meaningful for me—all because I reminded
myself that the day wasn’t over yet.
My day went from being the worst day of the week to one of my
favorite days of the week, even though it definitely wasn’t all good.
This wasn’t just a one-off experience; I’ve used this mantra so many times, with amazing results.
There was the time where I felt like I had wasted an entire Sunday
and this mantra inspired me to head outside and go for a walk, where I
ended up witnessing one of the most spectacular sunsets I’ve ever seen.
There was the time where I was having trouble getting some writing
done, and this mantra convinced me not to retreat to the couch and
binge-watch my latest Netflix obsession. As a result, I ended up getting
more work done than I wanted to.
There was the time where I felt like everything that could go wrong was going wrong
and I had been in an unhappy mood for days that I just couldn’t shake.
This mantra inspired me to spend one hour writing down every single
thing that I could think of that I was grateful for, which turned around
my day (and mood) completely.
And this is just the beginning. Time and time again I’ve used these five words to turn my day around.
I love using “today is not over yet” as my mantra to turn a not-so-awesome day around because:
1. It is a powerful reminder to find a way to make the day count.
This mantra reminds me that there is still time to make something
good happen, no matter what has happened so far in the day. It reminds
me that I don’t need to wait for a new day, a new week (or month or
year) to decide to make it count.
2. It reminds me that I have a choice.
And when I’m not having a good day
I can choose what happens from that moment. I can choose to throw the
day away, or I can make a different choice and try to find a way to make
the day count.
3. It reminds me to do something (or many things) each day that are meaningful to me.
It can be easy to fall into the habit of living each day on
autopilot, but this mantra makes me re-evaluate how I’ve been spending
my “life-minutes” and reminds me to be intentional about making this
day—and each day—count for me.
4. It reminds me to be grateful for each day, no matter what.
As Alice Morse Earle said “Every day may not be good…but there’s
something good in every day.” And this mantra helps me to be intentional
at finding and creating the good in each day.
So no matter what has happened so far in your day, if you want to make the rest of your day count, you can!
To make this day count you might like to:
- Do something kind for yourself. This might look like doing something you love that you don’t usually make time for, giving yourself a five-minute break to breathe and have a cup of tea, or asking yourself “What do I really need right now?” then doing it.
- Do something thoughtful and generous for someone else. This might look like helping someone out with something, or telling someone that you’re grateful for them and why, or writing someone a note and sending it to them in the mail.
- Do something productive. This might look like doing that thing you’ve been meaning to do for ages but haven’t gotten around to getting it done, making appointments that you’ve been putting off, or cleaning an area in your home.
- Do something you wouldn’t normally do. This might look like going to the movies in the middle of the week, or baking a cake even though it’s no one’s birthday, or going for a walk on a trail you’ve never been to.
- Do something—anything—that is meaningful for you. Something that makes you feel like you’ve made the rest of the day count.
So whatever time you’re reading this, whatever has happened today, know that there is always time to make the day count.
The day doesn’t have to be over yet.
It’s up to you what happens now.
In
Confidence,
Empowerment
5 Ways You Can Use Mindfulness to Fix Your Brain, Decrease Stress and Improve Performance
There’s no shortage of advice out there claiming to make you better, but mindfulness meditation is the rare, research-proven technique that boosts your performance by physically altering your brain.
Researchers from the University of British Columbia recently pooled data from more than 20 studies to understand how practicing mindfulness affects the brain. While the researchers found significant changes in eight brain regions, there are two regions that are of particular importance to you.
In these brain regions, the simple act of practicing mindfulness increased both brain activity and the density of brain tissue:
- The anterior cingulate cortex (ACC), which is responsible for self-control. It enables you to resist distractions, to focus, and to avoid impulsivity in order to work efficiently and make great decisions. The ACC is also responsible for flexibility, and people who have problems in this brain area are known to stick to ineffective problem-solving strategies when they should be adjusting their approach.
- The hippocampus, which, among other things, is responsible for resilience in the face of setbacks and challenges. The hippocampus is readily damaged by stress, making it a need area for most people. The hippocampus is red/orange in the image below.
Just as doing curls increases muscle density in your biceps, practicing mindfulness increases the density of brain matter where it counts. Mindfulness is perhaps the only technique that can change your brain in this way, which produces a ripple of other positive effects. Thankfully, you can reap the benefits of mindfulness in as little as a few minutes a day.
Gandhi was once with a group of followers who inquired about his schedule. He told them, “I need to set aside at least one hour each day to meditate.” They were vexed by this and told him, “There’s no way you have that much time!” He responded, “Well, if that’s the case, then I need to set aside two hours a day to meditate.”
Like Gandhi, you’ll soon find that mindfulness is one of very few things that are well worth your precious time, and the busier you are, the more important it is to have a clear mind if you want to be productive.
Mindfulness doesn’t have to take place in the mountains of Nepal or a weekend retreat under a vow of silence. The beauty of the technique is that it’s so simple you can do it anywhere and just about anytime.
Mindfulness is the simple act of focusing all of your attention on the present. This requires you to observe your thoughts and feelings objectively, without judgment, which helps you to awaken your experience and live in the moment. This way, life doesn’t pass you by.
I realize this might sound a bit abstract and complicated at first, but it isn’t. Here’s how you can do it, even with your busy schedule.
1. Focus on your breathing.
Sit in a comfortable chair with your feet flat on the floor, and spend a few minutes doing nothing but breathing slowly in and out. Focus all your attention on your breath. Feel the air travel into your mouth, down your windpipe, and into your lungs. Then feel your body shift as it pushes the air out of your lungs. When thoughts surface that distract you from your breathing, don’t worry. Just let them pass, and shift your attention back to your breathing. After some practice, you should be able to spend a few to several minutes doing nothing but immersing yourself in the act of breathing, at the expense of all the other thoughts.2. Go for a walk.
You can also meditate just by going for a walk. All you need to do is focus on each step. Feel your legs move and your feet hit the ground. Focus solely on the act of walking and the sensations of your surroundings (the cool breeze, the hot sun, or the dog barking in the distance). When you feel other thoughts creeping into your mind, focus even harder on the sensation of walking. Focusing on something that’s second nature is refreshing because it alters your frame of mind as you turn off the never-ending stream of thoughts that normally dominate your attention. You can do the same thing when you brush your teeth, comb your hair, or eat a meal.3. Feel your body.
You don’t even need to stop doing what you’re doing to practice mindfulness. All you have to do is focus all of your attention on what you’re doing without thinking about why you’re doing it, what you should do next, or what you should be doing. Whether it’s the gentle stroke of your fingers on the keyboard or your posture in your chair, you can direct your attention from your thoughts to your bodily sensations at the spur of the moment.4. Repeat one positive thing about yourself, over and over.
One of the main goals of mindfulness is to stop the steam of thoughts that cycle through your mind over and over again each day. Funnily enough, a great way to do this is to choose a short, positive message about yourself and to repeat it over and over with each breath to keep your mind on track. A great phrase of choice is “I am capable.” The simplicity keeps you grounded in the exercise and keeps other thoughts from taking over. The right phrase also builds a little confidence, which never hurts.5. Interrupt the stress cycle.
Any moment when you feel stressed, overwhelmed, or stuck on something is the perfect moment to practice mindfulness. Just stop what you’re doing, let the thoughts go for a moment, and practice your favorite mindfulness technique (breathing, walking, or focusing on body sensations). Even a few minutes of this can make a huge difference in quieting your mind and reducing stress. You’ll be surprised how reasonable things look once you’ve taken a few moments to clear your head.Bringing it all together
Nothing can improve your brain the way mindfulness meditation can. Give it a try, and you’ll be surprised where it takes you.Source
Eckhart Tolle is a celebrated author, speaker and spiritual teacher.
His books include;
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose,
Guardians of Being
Creating a balance between spirituality and prosperity is very
important. Money is a form of energy and can be used for good if there
is a positive flow. When you have an abundance of money,
you can help others on their path spiritually, emotionally, physically
and in every aspect of their lives. Then the giving/receiving cycle
repeats. The more you give to others, the more it comes flowing back to
you.
Conversely, when you are having financial difficulties, you
become self-absorbed and can only focus on yourself and your problems
(trying to pay the rent, bills, debts etc). You can’t see outside of
your own stress. Some people still have old programming such as “Money
is the root of evil" which is not helpful. You must re-frame your
thinking. Money can do a lot of good. Remember, it’s a form of energy
that can flow in any direction you desire.
Typically, we feel even more deserving of money when we know we will
help others with it. Having financial surplus gives you opportunities to
create good karma!
For increased happiness and prosperity, you can recite this powerful meditation on prosperity by Master Choa Kok Sui
out loud each day. It is best to recite it after you meditate, since
your energy will be clean and flowing. You can also make a copy of it to
bring to work. Feel free to say it whenever you want to affirm your
ever-growing abundance and happiness.
This affirmation was written very thoughtfully to remind us to
give to others (tithe to helpful people and charitable organizations),
be conscious with spending (live a life of moderation and do good),
bless others with abundance, and finally to affirm that our prosperity
makes us happy and healthy. In addition, here are some feng shui tips to energize your wallets and handbags for increased wealth.
Wishing you tremendous abundance!
Meditation on Prosperity
It is in giving that we receive.
As we sow abundantly,
We reap abundantly.
This is the Divine Law.
As we sow abundantly,
We reap abundantly.
This is the Divine Law.
As I give and share generously and abundantly,
my life is blessed with great financial
and material prosperity.
my life is blessed with great financial
and material prosperity.
Money flows to me easily, constantly
and in great abundance.
Whatever I invest comes back to me
many, many times.
and in great abundance.
Whatever I invest comes back to me
many, many times.
My life is Blessed with
so much Abundance,
so much Prosperity,
so much Success.
so much Abundance,
so much Prosperity,
so much Success.
I am blessed with tremendous prosperity
And I lived a life of moderation,
Discipline and spirituality.
And I lived a life of moderation,
Discipline and spirituality.
I am healthy and very happy.
I am enjoying every moment of my life.
I am enjoying every moment of my life.
May every person, every being be blessed with
good health, happiness, prosperity and spirituality.
good health, happiness, prosperity and spirituality.
With thanks and in full faith. So be it.
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