Live freely beyond any identity the world or yourself have given you.
Most
of us when we talk with each other, feel that the person we have been
talking to, express himself/herself through "second thoughts", through
filters in a suspicious way making it difficult to build trust. In the
book "The Six Pillars Of Self-Esteem" Congruence is analyzed. Congruence
is an alignment of words and actions.
For instance, congruence means that you:
- Keep the promises you make.
- Express yourself freely, regardless of your environment.
- Admit when you flirt with someone and don't conceal your true intention about him/her.
The average human being has a pull towards creating his personal identity, which includes negative as well as positive attributes of his character. Unfortunately most of the time his "identity" doesn't exist to serve him but to restrict him. Observe a friend or maybe yourself when you try to get out of your comfort zone. Something deep within you pulls you back, keeps resistance. The exact same thing might happen to your friend as well, seeing them make statements like "that's not what I am like". But what you will later understand is that your close friend, in reality is full of excuses.
Most
of the time our image and the information written on our identities are
imaginary. The main reason that happens is because we haven't made them
ourselves, they are constructed by our friends, relatives and generally
our social circle, which is reasonable for someone who doesn't invest
in themselves. The desire to be free mentally and physically resonates
with our nature. To get closer to your goal I challenge you, day by day
to leave a part of your identity and generally the image you have in
your mind behind. Embrace freedom, live without an identity that drags
you backwards!
On the other hand, everything is easier said than
done. Action forms our character and particularly how congruent we are.
Processes having to do with the psyche require time, no alteration in
nature hasn't happened in a second. Every human being has the ability to
test his congruence, day by day followed by small steps, discovering
themselves.
A foundational step is the awareness of situations
when we aren't congruent. Leave a comment below, answering the two
following questions.
- When do you believe you are not congruent, in which situations do you lose the ability to show your congruence?
- What can you do about it?
Before we delve deep into the topic, let me narrate a story to
you from the life of Swami Vivekananda to give you an idea of the power
of concentration.
Once, in America, Swami Vivekananda was watching
some boys. They were standing on a bridge trying to shoot at egg-shells
that were floating on the river. The egg-shells bobbed up and down. The
boys could not hit any of them. They fired the gun many times, but
always missed the target! They noticed that Swami Vivekananda was
watching them. So they called out to him: 'Well, you are watching us. Do
you think you can do better?'
Swami Vivekananda smiled and said: 'I will try.'
Then the boys said: 'It's not so easy as you think!'
Swami
Vivekananda took the gun and aimed at the egg-shells. He stood very
still for a few minutes. Then he fired the gun. He fired twelve times,
and every time he hit an egg-shell! The boys were very surprised. How
could any man shoot egg-shells like that? They thought. They said to
Swami Vivekananda: 'Well, Mister, how did you do it? You must be a
practiced hand.'
Swami Vivekananda laughed and assured them he had never handled a gun before.
'Whatever
you are doing,' he explained, 'the secret of success lies in the power
of concentration. Put your whole mind to it. If you are shooting, your
mind should be only on the target. Then you will never miss. If you are
learning your lessons, think only of the lesson. In my country boys are
taught to do this.'
The power of concentration is the only key to the treasure house of knowledge.
How to Improve Your Concentration
1. Understand what concentration is: "Concentration is taking your mind
off many things and putting it on one thing at a time."
2. Watch other people concentrating.
Go see a good action movie. In the middle of it, look around at the
people in the theater. What are they doing? They are absolutely still,
eyes barely blinking, and their breath is slower. It would take a really
major distraction to break their attention stream. These physical signs
may give you a hint about ways to increase your own concentration
abilities.
3. Avoid constant sensory input. Multi-tasking
(trying to do more than one thing at a time), loud noises, and visual
stimulation (such as from a T.V.) make concentration much more
difficult, and being around them or doing them too much can put you into
a habit of non-attention which can be hard to break.
4. Make it a point to put your full concentration on whatever you are doing. Don't let anything distract you. It really helps to be in a quiet place, but you can learn to block outside noise if necessary.
5. Stay calm.
Deep concentration is a matter of increasing or directing your
life-force or conscious, cosmic energy. The more of this kind of energy
you have, the better. Scattered energy doesn't help. It must be calm,
focused energy. Learn to be calmly concentrated and be concentratedly
calm.
6. Learn techniques to increase and control your energy.
One such technique is Paramhansa Yogananda's Energization Exercises.
Controlling your energy is an important first step towards the ability
to concentrate deeply.
7. Take breaks. Go outside and
breathe deeply or take a brisk walk. Make yourself do this often and
you'll be able to return to your task recharged and ready to focus more
creatively.
8. Learn to meditate. Meditation is the most
powerful of all concentration enhancement techniques. Learn a few simple
meditation techniques and practice them at least five minutes daily.
9. While meditating, watch your breath - don't control it in any way, just observe.
This teaches you to focus your mind on one thing at a time. As you
observe your breath, it will slow down, along with your mind (this is a
scientifically well-documented), and you move into a dynamic, peaceful
(but not sleepy) state of being. Your mind will become recharged and
creatively receptive.
10. Take rest. The biggest factor
affecting concentration is rest and this has been proved by research.
Concentration requires your mind to be calm. But your mind will be
scattered if you are not well rested. Make sure that you get the right
amount of sleep at the right time. Also have regular sleep time, and
this can be the key step for concentrating.
11. Choose a place of your choice for concentration.
Obviously some places are better than others. School libraries, study
lounges and private rooms are the best. Above all, the place that you
choose should not be distracting. Try to stay away from other people if
you want to concentrate on your work.
12. If you want to master the arts of concentration, develop a controlled and balanced diet.
Overeating creates a huge load of digestion and can make you feel
uncomfortable and sleepy. Eating light and healthy meals can help you
maximize your ability to concentrate. As Thomas Jefferson said, we
rarely regret eating too little. It's likely you'll find that you need
less food to satisfy yourself than you think.
13. Exercise frequently.
The ability to concentrate depends a lot upon our physical well-being.
If we are tired, unhealthy and afflicted by numerous minor ailments,
concentration will be more difficult. Of course, concentration is still
possible, but it is just more difficult.
14. Help improve the flow of oxygen to the brain.
Blood is the main vehicle of oxygen in our bodies. But blood gets
pooled in the lower half of our bodies as a result of gravity, and
doesn't push as much oxygen to the brain, where it helps improve
concentration. In order to help oxygenate the brain, get up and take a
walk every so often to get the blood pumping.
15. Practice doing one thing at a time, and doing it to completion.
If you jump all over the place and start a new project before you've
finished the last one, you're telling your brain that it's okay to
switch from one subject to another. If you really want to improve your
concentration, you'll start trying to convince your brain to finish one
task before you move onto the next one.
16. Do work at a desk, not your bed.
Your bed is where you sleep; your desk is where you work and
concentrate. Your mind makes these sorts or associations subconsciously,
which means that you're sending a "sleep" signal to your mind if you're
trying to work on your bed. This is counterproductive because you're
actually asking your brain to do two things at once (concentrate and
sleep). Instead, ask your brain to either concentrate or sleep by
choosing your workstation carefully.
17. Try the five-more rule.
The five-more rule is simple. Whenever you feel like quitting or losing
concentration, tell yourself to do five more of whatever you were
doing. If it's math problems, do five more problems. If it's reading, do
five more pages. If it's concentrating, do five more minutes. Find the
energy deep within to do five more of whatever you were you doing.
18. Try the Keywords Technique.
In this simple technique, the only thing you have to do is to find the
right keyword on what you are studying or doing and whenever you lose
concentration or feel distracted or your mind wanders to something else,
start saying that keyword repeatedly in your mind until you come back
to the topic at hand. The keyword in this technique is not a single,
fixed word but keeps changing according to your study or work. There are
no rules to select the keyword and whichever word the person feels that
it will bring back his concentration can be used as a keyword.
Bear in mind, concentration is that powerful tool which can win you all
your dreams provided you build it strong and use it right!
What, precisely, does it mean for a leader, to possess meaningful
strength, and to learn how to use it, in such a way, to get the best,
relevant and sustainable results, which will make a positive difference,
that benefits the organization, and its stakeholders? Since this is not
about physical power or ability, it truly relates to ethical, moral,
meaningful leadership, which makes others better, and focuses on the
best way to enhance his group. Unfortunately, like many other
descriptions and/or concepts, a leader's strength must be positive and
impact others, in a forward-looking, and thinking manner! Let's review,
from a mnemonic perspective, how to become an effective, STRONG leader.
1. Sustainable system: If
you want to lead, you must address more than just, the immediate needs
and concerns, but do so, in a way that is continuously relevant, and
leads others forward, in a sustainable way, which uses a vision, to
address the organization's mission. What does this mean? Basically, if
your group looks merely at the shorter-term, rather than doing so in
coordination with the intermediate and longer-term necessities, his
group will not get better or improve, nor will it evolve as it must!
2. Timely: We
constantly discuss the need to take action, in a definitive,
well-planned way, but, it is important to realize, unless one takes
action in a timely manner, where he leads the way forward, towards
becoming better and more relevant, he will not be a transformative,
effective leader. Timely action addresses needs and concerns, when they
are most controllable, because, the more one waits, or procrastinates, the issues nearly always are exacerbated.
3. Relevant; reliable; realistic: Focus
on issues that make a difference, rather than the petty, less
significant ones! What doesn't being a relevant leader really mean? It
means focusing on priorities, not your personal ones, but rather those
which are most likely to have the largest impact or influence on the
group. A great leader must be perceived as being both reliable and
realistic, or stakeholders will not listen/pay attention fully, and with
an open mind. Being strong means possessing the inner fortitude to
pursue the best course, rather than the most convenient and/or easiest.
4. Options; open-minded; opportunities; eyes wide-open: There's
always more than one way to proceed. It takes confidence in one's
ability and judgment, to make the challenging decisions. Proceed with an
open-mind, consider options and alternatives, and use and/or make the
best opportunities!
5. Needs-oriented: Far too
often, a pseudo-leader merely struts around, using empty rhetoric, and
patting himself on the back, but achieving very little of significance
or substance. Strong leaders realize and address needs and concerns, in a
well-consider, effective way!
6. Generate goodwill; giving; seek greatness: One
will only generate goodwill, when he clearly articulate the way, and
leads by example, in a strong, effective, efficient manner. Those who
prioritize giving back to others, for the mutual benefit, consistency
seek greatness, rather than settling for merely good-enough results,
and/or performance.
If you go into leadership, lead effectively! Be STRONG and positive, and pursue being the best leader you can possibly be!
The last article that I have written about innovation is the key
to success; there was a paragraph in which I have mentioned how powerful
the brain is when it comes to writing your ideas, to make your
innovation a reality, in a notebook or journal.
Today, I am going to focus on the power of the brain and how you can use it to make your dreams or innovations come true.
In
Biology, Psychology, or Anatomy classes, we learn that there are 2 main
functions of the brain; they are called the Conscious and Subconscious.
These 2 parts of our brain play an important role in everyday life.
Some of you may think, "What has this got to do with innovation?" I will
explain it to you.
The Subconscious Mind
For a building to
exist, it is drawn up on a mental blueprint. The builder(s) have to
visualize in their minds what the building is going to look like, how to
tall it will be, and the materials that will be used before a physical
blueprint is made.
For my readers, those who want to achieve
success through innovation, I want you to draw a mental blueprint in
your mind of who you want to be in the near future and figure out what
it will take to make your dreams a reality. In this part of the
exercise, do not write anything down as I will continue to discuss the
importance of the subconscious mind, so that you can get a clear
understanding of what I am talking about.
This part of your brain is where your dreams are active (awake and asleep) and where memories are stored.
1. Dreams. The innovations that we have today started out with dreams. The great Mathematician, Srinivasa Ramanujan,
wrote his dreams down; many of which solved the riddles of Math and
Physics. Your dreams play a vital role in starting your own innovation,
so pay close attention to what dreams you have and see which ones are
vital to your personal success.
2. Memories. There are many
articles that I have written where I have used past memories and
experiences and shared them with the world of how to become a better
affiliate marketer. You wouldn't believe how many people have benefited
from this as they have shared my articles on their websites or blogs.
Memorize
important formulas or word definitions. I am sure that Mr. Ramanujan
have memorized many Math formulas throughout his lifetime that led him
to discover new formulas through his dreams. Memorizing important items
will help you succeed on tests or discovering new ways to run a better
business.
The Conscious Mind
If the Subconscious is the root
of the tree, then the conscious mind is the main tree; it is the growth
or the action part of the mind. It is where you make your dreams a
reality!
1. Dreams. If you have a dream that is important to your
innovation, write it down immediately in a notebook or journal; this
means jumping out of bed in the middle of the night. If you are writing a
book, dreams are a great to get started; you will visit worlds beyond
your imagination and engage in an adventure that you will never forget.
2.
Memorization. It is important to write in a journal everyday so that
you can recall important events that have happened in your past. Who
knows, you can create important tips in your next article or innovation
that will help someone who is looking for answers to their question.
In
conclusion, never neglect the power of your mind; it is the key to
achieving personal and financial success. In your mind, innovation is
born; start working on yours today!
Chances are, you've been one of your doctor's star patients and have
kept up-to-date on your recommended vaccines: tetanus, flu, pneumonia,
etc. The goal of an inoculation is keep you healthy, of course. A quick
stick, and you have better odds of staying well.
Wouldn't it be
nice if there were a quick stick to help prevent stress in your life?
Well, there's not quite a vaccine to prevent your bills from showing up
in your mailbox or to keep your boss from piling on the work. But there
is a way to use regular stress-inoculating behaviors to benefit your
brain, mood, and functioning!
Stress Inoculation Therapy is a form
of counseling where people learn skills that can help them face
stressful situations with less distress. This is a form of therapy I use
regularly in my counseling practice, and the pay-offs are so rewarding
to see! It's great when therapy clients learn to anticipate their stress
pitfalls and know in advance what coping skills to use if/when the
triggers happen. Clients feel empowered by this kind of counseling, and
enjoy a much greater sense of control over their feelings and behaviors
-- instead of feeling like stress is in control.
There are some
simple ways you can help prevent rising stress levels without therapy,
too. Consider ways that you can build stress-busting activities into
your daily routine. The idea is that if you keep yourself in a routine
of helpful and relaxing activities, you'll be in greater mental state of
calm when stress does inevitably hit. Here are a few ideas:
Get
more exercise -- Science has shown that our brains release endorphins,
our natural feel-good chemicals, when we exercise. Even if you are too
busy for the gym or an hour-long run, you can add a little more physical
effort into your daily routines:
- Park at the back of the parking lot instead of near the front door when you go shopping or get to work.
- Take the stairs instead of the elevator.
- When watching TV, don't fast forward through commercials -- use that time to be active by walking in place, doing jumping jacks, or getting in some squats or lunges.
- As a reminder, you should always talk to your doctor before beginning any new exercise routine and get his or her clearance before starting!
Meditate -- A regular routine of meditation is proving
beneficial in numerous ways. It helps reduce insomnia, can help relieve
gastrointestinal distress, and may even reduce the risk of inflammatory
diseases. One sure benefit experienced by millions of people worldwide
is a greater sense of inner calm.
- With the advent of phone apps, modern technology has made it easier for people who want to learn to meditate. Check the App Store or Play Store for cheap and even free meditation apps.
- YouTube is another great resource for guided meditations and imagery exercises.
- Adult Coloring Books are all the rage and easy to find at just about any store. Adult Color-ers have spoken of the meditative quality of this activity. Try it and see!
- Put your phone on silent mode while practicing your meditation. Often times, unplugging from the "hectic connectedness" is reenergizing. Besides, there's nothing like a ringing phone to jar you out of your meditative state!
Practice Self-Kindness -- Don't get so caught up in
everything stressful that you neglect to nurture yourself. You are going
through life the very best way you know how. Even when you feel like
you want to do better, you deserve a pat on the back for putting in your
all and not giving up. Shift your focus from what you seem to be doing
wrong and remind yourself of everything you're doing right. Also keep in
mind that the only person who can control your stress level is you.
Then, take action with kindness!
- Enjoy something! Take a bubble bath, read a good book, have a conversation with a friend or loved one (or a therapist!), wear your favorite outfit or color, make a list of your blessings. Choose any activity that makes you feel good and set aside time for doing just that!
- Re-evaluate your to-do list. If there are any items that don't have to be done immediately, save them for another day. Focus only on the items that you have time and energy to accomplish today, and ask yourself whether they really are a priority.
- Choose an encouraging and inspiring personal statement and remind yourself of it regularly. These kinds of statements are called affirmations. You can come up with a statement of your own (for example, "In this moment, I choose inner calm and peace"); find a quote from someone else that really resonates with you (brainyquotes.com is a great resource for this); or look toward a religious or sacred texts. Write or print your affirmation on small pieces of paper and put them where you'll see them regularly -- on your bathroom mirror, in your wallet, and on your desk at work.
Everyone can relate to the fear of failure at some point in his
or her life. When a positive trait like achievement becomes too strong
in someone's life, its on the way to becoming a major handicap. Often
time's we view failure as more of a bigger story we tell ourselves "I am
not good enough" " I will never become a successful entrepreneur" "My
ex spouse was right- I'll never make it on my own-I am a loser."
However, we have to remind ourselves it is just that-a story. We have to
reframe our minds and turn failures as something positive and something
we can learn from. It's important to not turn to external activities
(drinking, drugs, eating etc ) to avoid your fear of failure and instead
create more positive ways to deal with it.
Here are 5 Tools to Get Over Your Fear of Failure:
1. Talking it Out
It
is important to face your fears and not suppress them by having someone
you can trust to discuss your discomforts or shortcomings. By having
someone to talk to about your fears it can better frame the situation by
objectively looking at it from afar and realizing that the big problem
was not so big after all. By talking with someone its also important to
not dwell on your fears and an opportunity to strategize how you can
break down the tasks into smaller pieces to not make it look so daunting
and motivate you to face your fears.
2. Meditation
Meditation
is an excellent way to reduce fears of failure. As you begin practice
you begin to notice patterns of fear arise and the hold they have on
you. With practice you can recognize these thoughts as just
that-thoughts-and not to become attached to them. You'll no longer find
your subconscious fear or resentment running your life from beneath your
awareness. Through meditation, as you train yourself to not let your
emotions control you or to be completely subject to them it will become
easier to do this in your life as a whole as well.
3. Surround Yourself with Positivity
Another
tool to help you with your fear of failure is to surround yourself with
positivity. Getting rid of toxic people in your life who only dwell on
why something will and cannot be done is not very motivating and puts
additional fears into your mind. Also, do not read negative media often.
Sure it is important to keep up with world events but constantly
listening to the traffic accident on the highway or the latest terrorist
attack is stifling in your attempt to move forward in your own personal
goals. Your physical surroundings are key as well. If you work from
home and hate the colour of your walls, do not get enough sunlight and
are not energized by your atmosphere that can make things worse.
Surround yourself with pictures, positive affirmations, and anything
else that generally makes you feel good to improve your mindset and
attitude towards your goals.
4. Failing More Leads to Success
Yes
that's right-failing more leads to success! Persistence is key.
Successful people do not give up after suffering a defeat. Even Malcolm
Gladwell said it takes roughly 10,000 hours of practice to achieve
mastery in a field. Statistics say that most entrepreneurs fail in their
first business and that on average they finally succeed on their third
business attempt. Failure seems to be the stepping stone to success.
Understanding what happened and what you learned from it is the most
important aspect of failing and the wisdom you will bring towards your
next attempt of success. We all fail, its how quickly you pick yourself
up and how long you waste time feeling sorry for yourself that usually
determines success.
5. Self Growth
Every time you fail, your
fear of failure becomes much smaller, which allows you to take on even
bigger challenges. Each failure makes you stronger, bigger, and better.
Failure teaches you that a certain approach may not be ideal for a
specific situation and there are better approaches. Every mistake is a
learning opportunity and a chance to look at your mistakes with a new
perspective. Failing is essential in personal development and you simply
will never grow as a person if you don't put yourself out there and be
willing to try and inevitably make mistakes.
So there you have it
folks! Setting yourself up for failure is integral to your success in
your personal and professional development. Just remember that failure
is a stepping stone to your goals and to not let the failure define you
as a person.
Finding time to dance with your priorities is a graceful and
empowering way to remain effective in times of transition. In much the
same way that dancing requires balance between your right foot and your
left foot, transitions require coordination between your right-brain
intuition and your left-brain planning and Priority Power.
Today
we'll talk about the restorative power of your intuition. It can be
especially helpful as you navigate the uncharted waters that
transitions, by definition, take you to.
Your intuition always
knows when change is afoot. This is an understanding that runs deeper
than words. It's like sensing a subtle vibration or shift in the energy
of the moment. So as you undergo transitions, it's a really good idea to
give yourself periods of restful silence. These allow you to attune
yourself. Then, continue to pause and 'listen' carefully for shifting
rhythms throughout your day.
When old routines are disrupted,
these new impressions might seem jangled and jumbled at first. But
little by little, you can discern and shape new patterns that fit your
evolving life. This input from your right-brain will then inform your
left-brain planning and prioritizing activities. Intuition offers deeply
organic, vital information to your left-brain that enhances your
Priority Power in ways that simply would not be possible otherwise.
A
journal is an ideal way to tap the wisdom of your intuition. Even 15
minutes of uncensored, free-writing daily allows new feelings and
impressions to bubble up into your awareness. Reviewing what you write,
especially over a few days, can be extremely enlightening!
Here are a few questions you can ask yourself as you begin your writing time:
- What has entered my life?
- What feelings does this bring up?
- What feels out of balance?
- What restores balance for me?
- What is my first step in my new dance?
As you work with the ideas I offer, you'll explore your
patterns, clarify your values, identify and prioritize your goals... and
create your path for achieving them. Using your intuition to strengthen
and maintain your Priority Power when you are navigating transitions
will enhance your productivity, teach you new things about yourself, and
help you make even better use of your time!
We are making decisions all the time. From the most trivial to
the life changing, we all need to decide what to say, how to behave and
how to respond to the people and situations that cross our path.
Ultimately, our decisions determine what we attract into our lives.
How
do you make these decisions? What do you base your decision-making on?
For many, it is something external, such as a religious belief system.
Most people, however - even those with strong religious beliefs - make
decisions based on those around them. When we are still very young, we
learned that the approval of our parents was vital for getting what we
wanted and, as we got older, our education system reinforced the idea
that the approval of other people is important. We were taught that
'making a good impression' and presenting ourselves well in front of
others is the key to a successful life.
The sad thing is that we
never get over this, and it often turns into a real problem. How other
people perceive us becomes so important that our behavior is completely
dominated by worrying about what we look like to others. In effect, we
are letting other people 'pull our strings.' We allow ourselves to
become puppets, dancing to the changing tune of other people's beliefs
and moods.
Our tendency to let other people pull our strings
means, however, that we lose touch with our connection to what could be
called our 'higher self' or our 'inner wisdom.' I believe that we are
all connected the same source - we all come from the same place, and a
connection to this 'life source' is essential to getting life to work
for us. We cannot be in the driving seat unless we are in touch with our
source or, if you prefer, our inner guide.
Being in touch with
source doesn't mean meditating for hours each day. It isn't esoteric,
but it does require a shift in our mentality. Instead of looking
outward, to other people, for our guidance, we need to look inward.
...
we are all connected the same source - we all come from the same place,
and a connection to this 'life source' is essential to getting life to
work for us.
It may be hard for us to trust ourselves - maybe
we've been told for decades that making decisions without reference to
the outside world is selfish or even dangerous. I've even heard someone
say that without an external code of conduct such as a religious belief
system, she would lie, cheat, steal and do all sorts of other wicked
things! I think it is very sad when someone loses sight of his own inner
guidance to such an extent, but it is not uncommon.
Regaining a
connection to our source, or 'inner wisdom' isn't hard, but it takes a
little time and gentle persistence. Try spending a few moments each day,
perhaps before you go to sleep, speaking to your inner guide. Share
yourself with your guide; share your problems and concerns; ask him or
her any questions you have. Over time, your connection to this inner
guide will become stronger - you'll get to know who s/he is. Your inner
wisdom will, if listened to, become a great friend and will enable you
to make good choices.
I guess the Law of Attraction needs no
introduction! I'm sure you've heard about it, and maybe you've seen 'The
Secret.' Let me clear - I think that a lot of the movies, the books and
the products you are bombarded with on the Internet are of little value
- hyped up, slick, well marketed and packaged, with one purpose - to
relieve you of your money.
But that doesn't mean there's nothing
in it at all. Far from it. I was reading about the so called 'Law of
Attraction' for many years before 'The Secret,' and I stared using some
of the stuff that's now so over-hyped in my own life. Let's go through
the basic ideas. This comes from Ester Hicks, the author of a number of
books on this subject which I do think are worthwhile.
'Nothing merely shows up in your experience. You attract it - all of it. No exceptions.'
But
how do we 'attract' these things? Abraham explains that it's all to do
with thought: 'You get what you think about; whether you want it or
not.'
Ester goes on to explain that there is a foolproof way you
can tell whether what you're thinking about is something you want to
experience or not. This is simply the way you feel.
1. Do something different. Go for a walk to clear you head, or
meet friends at the local coffee shop to brainstorm or respond to
questions or to make plans can do you the world of good. Sometimes a new
environment has been the key to increasing productivity and creativity
for me. Just change things around from your normal day.
2. Setting
goals inside and outside of work place are necessary to keep me
motivated. If I am just concentrating on work and not also on my home
life, I find it harder to want to work.
We all need life outside of our 9 - 5 day. We also need goals for ourselves. You might choose to learn to cook, learn a new language or speed read. Whatever you choose, make it something you will enjoy.
3. Create a to do list. I love lists and highlighting the completed activities makes me happy! Creating a to do list not only helps you to get your must do's out of your mind, it also helps you to think clearly as you are processing less information at any given time. I love that feeling when I get the end of any tasks that I complete, as it gives me a great feeling of accomplishment. I can also reflect on this list in the future to see how I worked through problems if something similar arises.
I write my list in order of priority. I can then to see the scale of what I am working on and be able put my to do's in an order to work in with my day. I usually have several projects on the go at once and this helps me to be balanced over my schedule.
4. Sometimes there are things we just cannot do alone this is when we need to ask for help. This can be one of the hardest things to do, but remember that you can return the favour one day so it does not all need to be one-sided.
If you are at work, make your goal a joint effort and get buy in from the team. If the goal is at home, maybe you could ask your partner, family member or friend if they would like to learn that new language with you so you can practice on each other. Two brains are sometimes better than one.
5. The most important for me is to reward myself when I get to the goal. Don't fall in the trap of constantly looking for the next thing. Take a break, reward yourself and those who helped you get there and appreciate the journey. If you know the reward is coming, it makes it that bit easier to work towards the big goal at the summit.
I find that the main thing for me is to chip away a bit every day. It might be to reach out to someone, write a quick article, remind myself of the purpose or to read over the plan each morning. The focus of the goal must be big enough to make you really want it enough to motivate you to move forward.
Reaching the goals and rewarding yourself will give you the improved mood and revitalised mind and body that will make you and your team want to achieve more! Enjoy the process and reaching the end goal.
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We all need life outside of our 9 - 5 day. We also need goals for ourselves. You might choose to learn to cook, learn a new language or speed read. Whatever you choose, make it something you will enjoy.
3. Create a to do list. I love lists and highlighting the completed activities makes me happy! Creating a to do list not only helps you to get your must do's out of your mind, it also helps you to think clearly as you are processing less information at any given time. I love that feeling when I get the end of any tasks that I complete, as it gives me a great feeling of accomplishment. I can also reflect on this list in the future to see how I worked through problems if something similar arises.
I write my list in order of priority. I can then to see the scale of what I am working on and be able put my to do's in an order to work in with my day. I usually have several projects on the go at once and this helps me to be balanced over my schedule.
4. Sometimes there are things we just cannot do alone this is when we need to ask for help. This can be one of the hardest things to do, but remember that you can return the favour one day so it does not all need to be one-sided.
If you are at work, make your goal a joint effort and get buy in from the team. If the goal is at home, maybe you could ask your partner, family member or friend if they would like to learn that new language with you so you can practice on each other. Two brains are sometimes better than one.
5. The most important for me is to reward myself when I get to the goal. Don't fall in the trap of constantly looking for the next thing. Take a break, reward yourself and those who helped you get there and appreciate the journey. If you know the reward is coming, it makes it that bit easier to work towards the big goal at the summit.
I find that the main thing for me is to chip away a bit every day. It might be to reach out to someone, write a quick article, remind myself of the purpose or to read over the plan each morning. The focus of the goal must be big enough to make you really want it enough to motivate you to move forward.
Reaching the goals and rewarding yourself will give you the improved mood and revitalised mind and body that will make you and your team want to achieve more! Enjoy the process and reaching the end goal.
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